I guess it all depends upon how one defines "help." I think she's dismissing a lot of things that the rest of us would call "help" without even considering them. When she's waved away the entire library, I have to admit that I don't know what kind of "help" she is looking for...
Maybe this is closeted bragging? Members of a playgroup I was in used to do that: "complain" about their kids and how hard they were to deal with as a way of saying "Look at how advanced my child is," since complaining is less socially unacceptable than bragging.
It always got on my nerves. But maybe that explains why she won't take any help. Perhaps she doesn't really want help!
