I have a TON of experience with this. DD10 is in OOD placement at a spec Ed school and I can't imagine finding/creating a better solution for her. It was a l-o-n-g road getting here though.
She does not have ADHD but has been diagnosed with just about every possible LD. We tried public with an IEP and a combo of resource supports, a para, introducing AT, etc. It was not successful. She developed severe school based anxiety and it was almost impossible to get her classroom teacher to understand or follow her IEP. 2E was not well understood and she was accused of being lazy, manipulative, trying to get out of doing her work, etc. For the most part teachers and staff saw either the giftedness - which meant the disabilities didn't exist and were just an excuse made up by an overprotective mother who wanted my little snowflake to get special treatment. Or they saw only the disabilities and then I was crazy for thinking my little special Ed kid could possibly be smart... The neuropsych eval after 1st grade said she *had* to have twice daily enrichment breaks which helped a bit but it came no where close to meeting her needs.
When we were fighting for out of district placement we were looking at placing her at a 2E school that would have required DD and me to stay away from home M-F. It was very appealing that they got 2E and I wouldn't have to keep explaining, explaining, explaining all the time. We decided to try the local spec Ed school our district suggested as a last ditch effort to stay at home even though we didn't think it was likely to work. I'm glad we didn't make the leap to the 2E school as I've heard it has evolved into a placement for kids with behavior problems. Also they do an enriched grade level curriculum so DD would not have gotten the radical exceleration in her areas of strength that she gets now.
While we were deep in the battle for OOD placement I considered homeschooling but realized there was no way I could meet her special Ed needs. My DD is profoundly LD so she needs intensive interventions. If I did homeschool it would require that I enlist the help of numerous outside specialists. DD gets daily Wilson intervention for her dyslexia, daily math intervention for her math disability, 3.5 hours a week of OT, 1.5 hours a week of SLP services and an hour a week of counseling services to help her cope with all her challenges. She also is doing a HS literature curriculum and an enrichment program on any topic of her choice (she always chooses history) along with grade level work in social studies and science.
I know a family that tried valiantly to homeschool their dyslexic child. Mom is a teacher and she trained in OG in order to homeschool but it didn't work. After a couple of years they gave up and sent him to a school that specializes in dyslexia. He spent 3 years there and finally seemed to get what he needed.
I hope some of this may help you formulate your thoughts. Please let me know if you need any more info. Good luck!
