I highly suggest The Unwritten Rules of Friendship by Elman & Kennedy-Moore. It has a chapter called "The Born Leader" (which I just reread two days ago) that deals with subjects like - learning to negotiate & compromise, knowing when & how to back down, managing the urge to correct others, & relating to others as peers. I was reading it in order to help a gifted student who has issues with group work (basically she comes up with an idea she sees as superior & gets upset when others don't want to do things her way) and this chapter was very helpful!
Good luck!
