My 2E DS is in high school.
I can tell you that 6th grade was the worst. Very boot campy sink or swim. But once your kid sinks, suddenly, they want you in there. If your kid is swimming, they don't want you anywhere around. They even told us not to schedule parent conferences unless our child was failing. BUT, my friend who has a child in special ed and it's a different story there.
7th grade was much better. And 8th even better.
6th grade was still in elementary for us. But we had the same experience. 6th grade the teacher wanted DS16 to be a lot more independent & have a lot higher executive function than he did and then only brought me in when it all started falling apart. Things were a lot better in 7th & 8th.
Good Luck.
