Except for time on the piano which I have studiously avoided formal lessons on so as not to kill the fun my DD is not that much of a puller.
Given her druthers my DD would rather just play Minecraft or curl up with a good book instead of learning Algebra or Latin but I still insist on her doing those things. As other have stated more eloquently already, I need my DD to stretch herself and to learn that some things just have to get done because these are life skills.
She still gets to whatever she wants to do everyday - it just happens after she has done what she needs to do first.
'Work first play later' is something that I want her to internalize.
I do not see any of the above as pushing with a capital pee as much as insistent nudging. Now the dad in the film Shine - he was a pusher...
