All of the wonderful advice above
Plus - don't try to over think it ahead of time. I've found with each of my initial neuropsych evals (one for my ds who turned out to be extremely 2e, another for my suspected LD dd who turned out to *not* have any challenges other than vision) - the results weren't at all what I expected. I knew that both kids were struggling, but my guesstimates re what the issues were were way off. It would have been impossible for me to put together a meaningful set of questions ahead of time.
I went in, listened, and asked any questions I could think of at that time. Naturally I came home, thought over all the new info for a few days, and had tons more questions. That's totally normal and a-ok. Keep track of those new questions, ask them via email or phone call if you can, or if you have a ton of questions schedule a follow-up visit for an hour with the neuropsych where you can ask your specific questions. I've done this each time and it's been extremely helpful.
I've also appreciated having my dh attend these meetings - it's really been true for us that each of us remembers and takes away different info and a slightly different perspective, which is really helpful. I'll be honest - my ds' first neuropsych eval left me shell-shocked. It was the first time I'd heard the word "disability" applied to one of my children. Please don't let what I just said scare you - it was just a very emotional thing and not something I'd ever expected to hear. BUT I can tell you that it's also not a horrible thing either - it's information, good information, and powerful information when you are advocating for your child. When we talk about his challenges as a disability today, I still see teachers etc who wince when the word is used, as if it's something horrible. It's not. It's a term that describes a challenge. It's a legal term that is necessary to receive accommodations in school. It is *not* and *never will be* WHO your child is - your child is going to be the same wonderful person full of potential that he/she was going into the evaluation. Coming out, you'll simply know more (hopefully a lot more) about how to help your child not be held back by his/her challenges.
Also please let us know what you find out - you'll most likely find someone else here who's been down the same path who will be happy to help.
Best wishes,
polarbear
