then stories of the marvelously gifted but non-quirky kid don't circulate. [/quote]
This has been our story too. I think that the stereotype of the quirky gifted child is so strong that teachers and even parents don't see giftedness when the child behaves well in class and doesn't complain. I missed it with my PG DD10 until third grade, when she began to express her unhappiness with her teacher and school in general. At that point she began to tell me that she didn't want to be smart anymore. This had apparently been going on since first grade but she had never expressed anything. Long story short, when I had her take the WISC to get into a private school, I was astonished. Now we're doing achievement tests in the hope of getting into DYS so that she can meet other gifted girls and appreciate how intelligence can be a good thing.
