To the question about the crowd growing up, yes, yes, yes. We are trying to figure that out also.
This is why we are always pondering the same question. We knew we were intentionally marrying a highly intelligent spouse.
We hand picked and had a normal size bridal party to stand up for us on our wedding day -- close friends, highly intelligent.
Not one of those friends or family ended up having a highly gifted child. They did not understand our situation at all. It fell on me to scramble to figure out how to get in touch with other gifted families. It was so awkward and uncomfortable to discuss. Whew! We handled it as diplomatically as we could. Point is (to the younger folks who are researching this), discuss giftedness like any other planning matter for your future happy life. We thought we had a support system in place and it was not so. Hope it helps.
