I am sorry, I don't have time to really think through everything above, but I see a few things that jump out. First, it sounds like you will have more good info to digest in a short period of time after the new 2e psych finishes testing - I hope it will help make sense out of the previous test results and what is happening with school. I am also guessing that at this point in your dd's life, she is old enough that *she* will be able to provide valuable input to the psych in evaluating her challenges.
Part of your dd's scores are red flags for either fine motor or visual-motor coordination challenges (the very low Veery BMI scores, the discrepancy in Beery subtest scores, and the low-average coding score on her WISC). My dysgraphic ds has a similar pattern with coding on the WISC and Beery VMI but without the low-average Beery visual component. I wonder if your dd doesn't have a combination of fine-motor *plus* vision challenge interacting. The fine motor might indicate dysgraphia which would potentially cause the letter reversals and issues with punctuation and spelling when writing.
On the WJ-III tests, it was very helpful to me - with all the scatter in my ds' scores - to group the subtests by response type (oral vs written vs written+timed). Once they were grouped together this way, the impact of his dysgraphia really showed clearly - he scored consistently at the level his WISC would indicate he should score on the oral response tests, but significantly lower on the tests that required handwritten responses and his scores dropped to the basement on timed tests requiring handwritten responses. You could see by graphing them this way that the achievement tests weren't really measuring his true "achievement" - they were measuring his ability to use handwriting.
FWIW, my dysgraphic ds is really good at math, but he gets tripped up frequently in calculating math problems because he flips #s around or copies things incorrectly etc while working a problem. My understanding is this is not unusual for either dysgraphic or dyslexic students. The solution for my ds has been to check and double-check all his work. The double-check step is necessary because he often accidentally miscalculates the second time through on a problem he had correct the first time around. It's really frustrating!
50th percentile on the Gray Oral Reading test is average and I wouldn't think it would send up any red flags for potential dyslexia. OTOH, are their discrepancies in the subtest scores? My dd9 has a reading challenge, and while the scores she receives on both the Gray and another reading eval test (which I can't remember the name of at the moment) come in at average, there are subtests on each where she scores way below average. Reading is made up of *so* many different types of skills - the eval my dd had from a reading specialist included several different tests each with multiple subtests, all evaluating different types of abilities that combine into a child's overall ability to read. If you still have doubts about your dd's reading ability after the 2e eval, I'd consider having her evaluated by a reading specialist (someone who specifically treats dyslexic students and children with other types of reading challenges).
I'm sorry you and your dd are also going through a tough time with her dad - having to deal with a potential undiagnosed LD at school is enough cause for anxiety all on it's own.
Hang in there - and I am wondering - do you think you'll really have to wait 5 weeks for the psych's results? Our neuropsych did give us the gist of feedback (in brief form verbally) at the conclusion of testing - so we had some things to go on and think about/research while waiting for the report.
The other thing you can do in the meantime is to read about the specific subtests and see what each tests. Also you could post if your dd has had any other type of reading evals other than Gray, or post her subtest scores - there may be some of us here who have some additional thoughts on the reading if we had a little bit more info on the tests she's had.
Best wishes,
polarbear
