So, today I woke up my dd and told her "welcome to the first day of the new year for" (since yesterday was so bad). We toured the new school again, they still have off. She got to sit on in her future fourth grade class, and loved it already. Smaller class size, but nice big spacious room. By the way, her last school was open concept - hate those schools. To have 100 fourth graders partitioned off, just not a good fit for her at all.
Yes, it was a public school, and the reason I brought her to the office yesterday, was she was too scared to go to class. Their rule though is a child must be in school, even if it is reading in the office.
We are keeping her home until the new school lets her shadow next week, and go from there. Keeping fingers crossed.