I'd delve a little further. What is it that bothers her? When kids have meltdowns, does the teacher help them feel better? Does the teacher make it easier for the kids to feel good so they don't get so frustrated?
For my dd, it wasn't the meltdown as much as it was the climate in the classroom that she felt wasn't supporting the vulnerable kids. Some kids can see the storm coming and they just get tired of the building anxiety.
Totally agree.
I would talk not only with the teacher but also perhaps with the principal. The kids who are having meltdowns are virtually guaranteed to be not having enough support. This is bad for everyone. If you can advocate for more appropriate support, everyone wins.
It may also be wise (this is for those kids and parents to decide) to have a process of disclosure where the class openly talks about what is going on with someone when they are melting down or struggling. We found that this helped kids not be scared and show appropriate empathy, which in turn helps everyone.
DeeDee
