I'd delve a little further. What is it that bothers her? When kids have meltdowns, does the teacher help them feel better? Does the teacher make it easier for the kids to feel good so they don't get so frustrated?
For my dd, it wasn't the meltdown as much as it was the climate in the classroom that she felt wasn't supporting the vulnerable kids. Some kids can see the storm coming and they just get tired of the building anxiety.
If your dd is able to verbalize what it is that bothers her about school, then you can help her think of an action plan that improves the situation. If it's the meltdowns that bother her, then she could consider moving to another part of the room, putting her fingers in her ears, asking to go to the bathroom, reading a book, whatever it is that makes her feel more in control.
If it's a negative teacher or classroom climate, she can think of other things to do.
These are great times for her to learn about herself, and teach her how to take care of herself.
I would not pull out until she knows what's going on and there has been a conference with the teacher. Faking illness is a real red flag that something needs to be done-- and running away isn't a healthy response. Leaving for good reason is a different story.
Thanks Master of None!
She is sensitive, probably highly sensitive and very empathetic. I think it may be too much going on and it just builds all day long.
We did a little role playing last night. She was the teacher and she kept stopping in mid-sentence because some of the "kids" were not paying attention. She also talked about when one of her classmates screams, cries and yells at the teacher how upsetting and distracting it is. (I've seen it and it's not a pretty sight.) So, we talked about covering her ears, taking a deep breath, and focusing on her breathing as a way to manage.
We need to delve further.
Thank you for your great advice!
