As a child in early elementary school, I told my parents that I hated school and didn't want to go. My parents told me I needed to learn to learn to deal with it. What I learned was that my parents were unsupportive and that complaining was futile. I don't think I learned anything in school but how many holes were in the ceiling tiles. I was a high achieving people pleaser, popular with my classmates, and absolutely miserable.
If your child is telling you she needs something, you should listen before she decides you are not worth approaching for help on anything...
Be sure to ask other questions about school. Is she learning anything?
Minus the high achiever (I only achieved in the few areas that interested me) and the popularity (I am an introvert and if I work/study along side others I need quiet time at much breaks not socialising) me too.
I learnt that my needs didn't count and that there was no point asking for anything. When I was told to ignore bullies I learnt that no-one thought it was important - basically as a counsellor told me years later I developed "learned helplessness" and depression.
I also promised myself that I would never subject myself to waking up dreading the day every morning as an adult. This has resulted in sone very poor career decisions.
Ask yourself - in the future you envision for your daughter will she ever feel obliged to tolerate the behavoir she has to now? Would the behavoir be the norm in any of the professions you know? Would you tolerate it in your workplace? Would your boss? Is she really learning a valuable lesson or just learning to put up with stuff?
Can you home school or offer another alternative?
