Hey, Lisa, the rest came back to me last night -- I was emailing one of DS's teachers and my brain reached out and found the rest of the fish thing somewhere.

"We can buy him fancy wings, and give him flying lessons, and nag him every day to practice flying, or we can stop enabling him, kick him out of the tree and tell him he just has to learn to fly by himself, but in the end he's still going to be a fish."