Welcome Lisa!
Wow, what a tough decision. However, it sounds like your DD's school is much more flexible than most schools in terms of differentiating instruction in grade - and you have an IEP so you have a basis for advocating if she is not learning in the classroom next year. Maybe they would even consider some online self-paced learning such as EPGY to ensure she is learning at her level. I know there are some folks on this board who have HG+ kids who did not grade skip but were successfully accomodated in their current grade classroom. Rare, but it does happen depending on the flexibility of the teacher and support of the school/district.
According to the Iowa Acceleration Scale, a kid that does not want to skip is *automatically* considered a bad candidate for a skip. However, I am skeptical about any hard and fast rules
that generalize to all kids...
