We've been lucky so far with a fairly aware school district and staff. But it seems generally hard to tolerate people functionally lying or raising expectations only to drop them, and only amps up with the righteousness of seeing someone set your kid up to be unhappy, etc. If somehow DS's skip doesn't go through, I'd feel similarly.
For us, everything has felt easier knowing we are prepared to home school if that is the right option. Not the preferred option, but having made that decision and being ready for it sure gives a solid foundation to deal with anything that comes up.
