Are you working on getting her evaluated for autism? I would consider doing that, and letting the psych know that you are working on that. Sometimes just informing these people that you are working on having your child evaluated completely changes the way they feel about your kids (suddenly they are much more sensitive and concerned, instead of irritated and annoyed.)
Yup. I've had this experience too
Here too. Also often true of peers; DS's peers were afraid of him until a great teacher educated everyone about his challenges. He has had a lot of support.
Sometimes if you equip people to do the right or helpful thing, they do it.
DeeDee
