keet, I could have almost written your post (less the dyslexia diagnosis & my DD has a lower processing speed). Just a word of encouragement & to tell you to keep at the advocacy. It took us 4 years to get the right combination of testing and a 504 for "other disability", which we all know is dysgraphia but no one will use these words in an official diagnosis.
What was the key for us, not in a diagnosis, but in getting accommodations, was an OT evaluation with a 6th percentile on a Beery VMI. (Visual Perception was 91st percentile and Gross Motor was also a 91st percentile.) The OT gave us a list of accommodations to work from, which were helpful. What we have ended up with for our now 8th grader includes extended time, computer usage, teacher providing a copy of power point or other notes when presented to the class on computer, no orally administered tests with written response (other than spelling) without giving a hard copy of the questions (ran into this in geometry of all places), and not counting spelling on homework or 1st drafts.
Good luck!
Last edited by revmom; 04/02/13 10:03 PM.
