in fact, I've had somewhat similar conversations with doctors about my DD's atypical asthma. (The concern is that the dx will "follow" her, with potential repercussions.)
What is the concern about an asthma diagnosis "following" the child?
Our school has been reasonably responsive when we have needed to change the diagnostic information in our IEP. And school records, while sensitive and affecting things while one is in school, do not typically "follow" a person into the world. Once a person ages out of the school system, it's not likely that anyone would see those records or use that information for anything.
Maybe I'm missing some crucial piece of the picture. But I just don't see it.
DeeDee
