We seem to have cross posted. Yes there is a possibility of a negative response from some people to having a diagnosis. But kids who don't get a formal label get informal ones - rude, weird, deliberately obtuse, obnoxious, frustrating, etc... My DD "seems perfectly normal" but annoys the heck out of most people, has few friends (and pretty much all her friends are on the spectrum or have ADHD), doesn't get asked to birthday parties or playdates....