Lori H.
I'm so sorry that your son is going through this! YuK!!! My only, completely anecdotal, personal, response is to try to get him to understand that people only do that sort of thing when they are scared or threatened.
My other response -- and I've dragged kids into the hallways of public schools and spaces for this one, is that using geek or gay as an epithet rather than a simple descriptor or compliment is like swearing. It's done only because the person doesn't know how to express themselves well or accurately. Followed by a Q & A about what those terms actually mean.
As a kid, of course, I got beat up in the lunch line for the previous interventions.
It IS snotty and elitist, but it is the responsibility of folks like your child who actually CAN think these things through!
