Learning more at home than at school isn't nescessarily a bad thing. Not learning much at school is the bad thing, yes?
Too bad about not being able to speak enough Dutch to help in the classroom, although I do reccomend that you try it before you reject the idea - your eyes and mind know the langugage of childhood, and that will be enough. Can you imagine saying, "I'm deaf, so I can't help out in my child's classroom." No, of course not. You would just try and see what you can accomplish, yes?
It might be very useful for the other kids and teachers to see that you 'really don't' speak Dutch. They may judge your daughter less harshly when they see that she exceeds your abilities in Dutch, yes? I remember sitting with some of DS11's classmates on a class trip and doing a bit of silliness. The children looked at me with awe. "you are just like Him!" they said. I felt it might help them keep his weirdness in perspective to know that at home, he's quite ordinary.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
