Wow your dd sounds awesome, as do you. I am sure you make a great team.
It sounds like you really need to get the IEP adjusted because clearly her needs aren't being met. Can the school provide the one-on-one help instead of you? If she can't read the test questions I think that needs to be addressed proactively rather than continually failing her and having her redo it. Wouldn't it make more sense to mark the answers she got right and NOT actually score the first test if it doesn't really measure her knowledge? Doesn't it also make more sense for the school to arrange for someone to read the questions to her. This is MATH and she is being penalized because of a disability that affects her reading.
I think it is great idea to get the curriculum and pre-teach the material. I think, though, that the school should be doing this instead of you. If you 2 butt heads she may have an awesome teacher but I hope it's not at the expense of being able to continue to be her awesome mom.
JMHO... Good luck!
