Yes, Yes! All of the above, but for us also
That it HURTS my son when you tell him not to talk about "fill in the blank" --usually a science subject for him, or to remember his audience and keep it brief when it's taken him a lot of courage to speak up in the first place. Like last year when they finally started to talk about a subject that he truly enjoyed... the teacher told the class about the three states of matter, and he raised his hand to point out that there are four and wanted to talk more about plasma because we'd just seen something on PBS talking about the plasma engine they're working on. She told him he was wrong, and that they weren't talking about that now. He didn't raise his hand again for months after that.