Wow, Beckee and Austin, your posts describe a level of bullying that I fortunately have not seen!
I have been lucky with my DS's that I have only observed real, ongoing bullying in one setting: a park district summer camp my boys were enrolled in last summer. Even after I discussed the situation with the leaders, nothing changed and the only person who ever got in trouble was my ds on the few occasions that he did lash out in retaliation. They claimed that they talked to the kids, but there were just too many kids for them to catch all the situations.
On the other hand, we moved the boys to a YMCA camp, and had zero problems with bullying. In my view, the Y just set better expectations about how people should treat each other. I think this really demonstrates the power the school or organization can in preventing these behaviors.
