Wow Sydness, I'm so sorry that this is how your year is starting. I wonder if requesting a meeting and having your DH attend with you would help. First, in a situation like you've described, there is strength in numbers. Second, I wonder if your DH's acceleration when he was school aged might convince them that it is both possible and necessary. Would he be willing to tell his story?
I know you must be so disappointed and frustrated to get such ridiculous responses from these teachers. It's one thing for teachers to honestly explain the barriers they are facing (time, staffing, whatever....) and quite another for them to assume that your child isn't really reading with understanding or to assert that your child must do inappropriate work in order to avoid social problems.
Now say three times out loud:
"I am not crazy and my child DOES deserve an appropriate education".
