In reading your e-mail, I certainly am able to empathize with raising gifted children with intense personalities--who often experienced severe anxiety and sensitivity issues. I agree with the suggestion to try to find some natural remedies (which would only help even if you decide that medication is needed) to ease your daughter's anxiety/worries--relaxation techniques (such as simple deep breathing), modification in diet, exercise, and the ongoing unconditional support and love you are providing for her.
She certainly seems to be struggling at this time with her own young identity. She is, however, sharing her interests. Sometimes "immersion" learning feeds and satisfies the creativity and thirst for knowledge within that gifted individuals often crave.
Perhaps the obsessive-compulsive tendencies can be reduced (although it will take much patience and time) through a step-by-step approach to learning more about her fears.
Since she also seems to exhibit perfectionistic tendencies, this too may be a concern for her regarding the "gifted" program/label. Gifted children often place a lot a pressure on themselves, feeling that being "gifted" means all tasks must be completed with perfection. Perhaps this is an issue?
You have certainly been on the right path by reaching out and learning as much as possible about your daughter. All the best.
Linda
