Grandma-
Go ahead and razz, I don't mind! I am SO far from being a stage mother that it's funny to hear. I guess it's my lazy nature. My kids could be so much "further along" if I pushed them, but that's not my way. I want them to "own" their achievements and experiences, and I may in fact err more on the side of not doing enough for their development. Time and money are always at a premium too, and I am constantly juggling to try to do what I consider the bare minimum for each of my four.
I agree about your ideas on making choices.
