Originally Posted by Thomas Percy
I am not sure I understand this point. As much as we say we want the kids to take the lead, everyday we see even from this board how to improve our DD or DS in reading or math or something else. Any responsible parents would want to guide their children.

Since you brought up Amy Chua, here is how she defines letting her kids take the lead:

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Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:

• attend a sleepover

• have a playdate

• be in a school play

• complain about not being in a school play

• watch TV or play computer games

• choose their own extracurricular activities

• get any grade less than an A

• not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama

• play any instrument other than the piano or violin

• not play the piano or violin.

That doesn't sound much like what you're describing. The child is not leading, and the parent is not guiding, so we're definitely talking about different parenting styles here.

Originally Posted by Thomas Percy
Tiger cubs can also be highly gifted. As I said earlier, the most famous ones, Amy Chua' daughters seem very very smart to me.

Yes, they can. That still doesn't negate the fact that tiger parenting yields negative results.

http://www.forbes.com/sites/susanad...dont-raise-superior-kids-says-new-study/