Originally Posted by Dude
Originally Posted by Val
First, what is success, and second, why do tiger parents think they have a right to define it for someone else? Your child isn't your property, and when he grows up, the right to define a) what to do with his life and b) personal success is his alone.

The answer to the second question is the same as the answer to the question of why some think a chihuahua should be carried around in a handbag. It's an accessory that belongs to the owner. Children are often viewed in the same way.

I am not sure I understand this point. As much as we say we want the kids to take the lead, everyday we see even from this board how to improve our DD or DS in reading or math or something else. Any responsible parents would want to guide their children. This guidance is based on their understanding and life experience. Sure some of them may be misguided. But there is nothing wrong on principle. I have met very few people who simply use their kids as bragging rights.

Tiger cubs can also be highly gifted. As I said earlier, the most famous ones, Amy Chua' daughters seem very very smart to me.