Why do I feel guilty all the time? - 08/29/11 02:53 AM
Do I just feel guilty all the time because I'm a mother now and that is just how it is?
I constantly feel guilty anymore. DD took 2 or 3 naps (longer than 10 minutes) this ENTIRE WEEK. I need alone time. I feel so guilty because I love her and I know she wants to be with me, but I need a break. I went and picked up food today and left her with DH for an hour. I even ate most of mine in the car so I could be alone. I felt guilty for leaving her, and guilty for enjoying it. Then I felt guilty for eating crappy food when I am breastfeeding her (and also enjoying said food.)
I feel guilty because she fusses and cries with DH, but if I don't have him watch her for a bit, I'm gonna go nuts.
Last night, DH and I went on our 2nd date since DD was born. I felt guilty for having alcohol, guilty for eating crappy, and guilty for leaving DD home because we saw other babies eating out (and guilty for also enjoying myself ha.)
I feel guilty for wanting to "deprive" her of junk food, tv, and plastic toys (I am mostly successful at this so far.) Then I feel guilty when I sit her in front of the TV with some plastic toys my mom gave her to watch a baby signs DVD or Word World because I am desperate to cook some food, etc. I feel guilty because I don't feed her food enough and feel too tired to make purees after cooking our time and labor intensive whole foods meals. (I am waiting for more teeth. She has two only.)
Then I feel guilty when I give her a big chunk of plum or whatever to gnaw on because my motives suck. I generally give her food so she will be busy for a bit and not because I am a good mother feeding her baby like she should.
I feel guilty because we don't go out enough because it is way too hot here. I feel guilty she has some plastic toys and is around stuff in my house that probably has flame retardant and other nasties in it. I feel guilty for using our poor dog to "baby-sit" so DD stays busy playing with her for awhile (next to me, of course, while I read these forums or something.)
I also really suck as a housewife and I'm certainly spending way more money on things than my fledgling business is bringing in. Guilt. Guilt. Guilt.
I basically just feel like a crap mother, but I feel guilty when I do things and guilty when I don't do the same things, so really, how can I win?
Maybe this should go on MDC or something, but most of my guilt stems from me probably being too idealistic and a perfectionist and from DD never sleeping and needing so so so much from us. You all might understand some of this. But maybe I take it way too far.
I constantly feel guilty anymore. DD took 2 or 3 naps (longer than 10 minutes) this ENTIRE WEEK. I need alone time. I feel so guilty because I love her and I know she wants to be with me, but I need a break. I went and picked up food today and left her with DH for an hour. I even ate most of mine in the car so I could be alone. I felt guilty for leaving her, and guilty for enjoying it. Then I felt guilty for eating crappy food when I am breastfeeding her (and also enjoying said food.)
I feel guilty because she fusses and cries with DH, but if I don't have him watch her for a bit, I'm gonna go nuts.
Last night, DH and I went on our 2nd date since DD was born. I felt guilty for having alcohol, guilty for eating crappy, and guilty for leaving DD home because we saw other babies eating out (and guilty for also enjoying myself ha.)
I feel guilty for wanting to "deprive" her of junk food, tv, and plastic toys (I am mostly successful at this so far.) Then I feel guilty when I sit her in front of the TV with some plastic toys my mom gave her to watch a baby signs DVD or Word World because I am desperate to cook some food, etc. I feel guilty because I don't feed her food enough and feel too tired to make purees after cooking our time and labor intensive whole foods meals. (I am waiting for more teeth. She has two only.)
Then I feel guilty when I give her a big chunk of plum or whatever to gnaw on because my motives suck. I generally give her food so she will be busy for a bit and not because I am a good mother feeding her baby like she should.
I feel guilty because we don't go out enough because it is way too hot here. I feel guilty she has some plastic toys and is around stuff in my house that probably has flame retardant and other nasties in it. I feel guilty for using our poor dog to "baby-sit" so DD stays busy playing with her for awhile (next to me, of course, while I read these forums or something.)
I also really suck as a housewife and I'm certainly spending way more money on things than my fledgling business is bringing in. Guilt. Guilt. Guilt.
I basically just feel like a crap mother, but I feel guilty when I do things and guilty when I don't do the same things, so really, how can I win?
Maybe this should go on MDC or something, but most of my guilt stems from me probably being too idealistic and a perfectionist and from DD never sleeping and needing so so so much from us. You all might understand some of this. But maybe I take it way too far.