Remember the feeling overwhelmed thread?
I said:
Anyway - lots of 'unusually gifted' kids I know have very little interest in jumping through hoops for good grades at school. And lots of 'unusually gifted' kids do well in school, and don't even seem to notice that there are hoops to jump through. So much has to do with personality. Kids with 2E issues seem to find the hoops quite noticable!
It's great that he got into the gifted program, hopefully that will do the trick.
You may want to read 'Transforming the Difficult Child' by Howard Glasser and Lisa Bravo so you can be inspired to notice and praise his small steps towards flexibility, sharing his brilliance in a useful way and obedience.
Best Wishes,
Grinity