She is dreading school already and has made up her mind that it is "going to suck as much as last year." I really want this year to be better. The one thing I DO know is that there has to be different work as opposed to just more work. Getting her to do anything that she finds even remotely boring is really difficult.
DS9 Echoes your DD's sentiments exactly and I yours. We are also in a place where there is no gifted schools/mandates/options. I did arrange to meet with DS's teachers over the summer. Since he is entering 5th grade one teacher covers language arts/social studies and the other does math/science. Only time will tell if my meeting had any impact. Things said that were not encouraging were "Many fifth graders find fifth grade much harder than fourth." and when I attempted to illustrate his abilities by explaining that he was reading and comprehending Harry Potter in K the LA teacher asked if I had spent a lot of time teaching him to read and looking quite disbelieving when I said that I was surprised to learn he even knew how!
Since he is already grade skipped one grade I am looking for some subject acceleration. Like your DD getting him to do something he finds boring is like getting him to volunteer for a root canal.
What have you done to advocate for your DD so far in anticipation of the upcoming school year? Have you included her input on what types of accommodations she would like to see?