She insisted at 6 that she was ready for sleep away camp, and she went, and loved it.
She is skipped ahead one year in school, and is beginning to feel like she wants some friends in older grades. It came up because she said she felt like it was time for her to skip another grade. It came up last year too, and we are NOT skipping another year.
Seriously conside moving to Reno, so she can have her accademic accomidations, and have a solid group of kids to be herself with socially without being thrown it with a bunch of hormone-crazed middle schoolers.
Short of that kind of 'ideal world' you are not going to get a perfect solution.
Here's my pitch for following her lead on that next skip. Take it for what it's worth, and Brace Yourself:
If she gets skipped again, she may be in situations she isn't ready to handle - OTOH, like her experiece of overnight camp, she may be reading some deep insight into her own readiness.
However, if she doesn't get skipped again, or accomidated with a mentor, or 'something' she may well decide that academics are a lost cause and turn all her intensity towards the social world. I count myself more in that camp of BTDT. I was early enteranced, so that's equavalent to a single skip in some ways. I was able to handle the school work and get As without a lot of bother, so everyone was happy except ME. I was left with a lot of extra energy and intensity on my hands, and when 'boy-crazyness' became an option, I went for it! (Started at age 13)
(A casual observer of these boards would probably agree that I'm rather extroverted, intense, and social by nature. I was basically shunned in later elementary school, so when my body matured, and boys were willing to put up with me, no matter what I was talking about, I had a lot of growing up to catch up on.)
Now I will say that I handled my social adventures in high school with unusual maturity - but I always had a little worry that things were somehow 'too easy,' that I was '5 steps ahead' of the boys, that I was 'shooting fish in a barrel' and that it wasn't fair to my agemates. 9th grader girls, afterall, are considered 'fair game' for 12th grade boys. But the 12 grade boys never really seemed like 'fair game' to 9th grade me.
So take a deep breath. Count on your fingers how many years you have left before she is a X year old 9th grader with access to 12th grade boys. Ask yourself if you really want academics to 'not' be a place where she can use up some of that intensity.
And some people think that 'Reno 911' is just a television show!
I'm grateful every day that the kid I have to raise who is 'just like me' in so many ways -
is a boy because the social costs and risks for gradeskiped girls feel so much highter! There is no good answer for this one!
Love and More Love,
Grinity