I'm still left wondering, like what? Your son is asking other children his age whether he can play and they are not saying yes? That doesn't even sound like a statement about him, really, it just sounds as though he's using a different social convention to the one they're expecting. It wouldn't occur to me to suggest to my DS that he should ask other 4-5yos whether he can join in, and I expect that if someone had asked him at that age he might well have been nonplussed. So what is it that you're wondering about?
ETA: sorry, I hadn't spotted that you'd made another post after the one I was replying to. I don't know the book the others mentioned but I hope it's helpful! One thing I'd add is that this is the age when it starts to really matter whether kids already know one another or not; they start to have real friends. If he sees these children infrequently, especially if some of them see one another more often, that may be your explanation.
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