Thanks for the advice so far. We have not thought about Mensa, but will when we get to Florida. (Which will be next week.)
Well, DH finally got a live person at Orange County Public Schools. Inf act, he got the gifted admin. there (or at least one of them). He was asking about a magnet program that we had heard about for kids with an IQ over 140, (which DD has). We got the typical response "all of the schools in the western area of the county have great gifted programs, just find a place to live and you'll be able to work with the school whose district you're in." She then went on to say that test scores were not important for entry into the magnet program. All that was required was a letter from the teacher stating that the child's needs were not being met by differentiation in the regular classroom. She said she couldn't recommend a school to us and she knows it didn't sound like an answer, but that was all she could tell us.
I also finally got an answer to an email I had sent to one of the elementary schools in the area, asking about single subject acceleration, and was told that this isn't done because there are many students in the school with similar talents to DD!! How many kids can there be in a school with an IQ over 140? I am beginning to think we are going to be in for a long battle to find a good program.