<reassuring smile>
I hear you.
Give the GT group a try though. I suspect you might very well feel like you found a home. At worst, it's no better than where you are, and you're really out nothing except maybe hope for better. But empty hope that you never explore doesn't really give you anything, right? Try it.
Or maybe some combo of the two groups will give you what you need. Chameleon syndrome can serve you well even into adulthood if you know how to use it to get your needs met.
And FWIW, you don't sound woe-is-me to me. You sound like you need some support, somewhere to belong. That's normal. BTDT! You're okay.
Just try the other group and see how it goes. I'm hoping for good things there!
I'll expect a full report, you know.