Hello, I posted a long time ago about getting my son (9) tested and the following fiasco we had with the tester we found. I was under the impression that he would do the test (he used the WISC IV) and release the results to us and go over them in depth. It turned out that after he took the test it was like pulling teeth to get the results. Turns out he wasn't going to release the results to us-he thought we wanted the test done so he could get into a gifted school, and he was going to send the results to that school (even though I had told him the school we were looking into wasn't a gifted school). I ended up getting a very brief page of results that said he was High Superior, I believe the term was. Still no number precisely but I believe the range was 120-130. He said our insurance wouldn't cover further tests or the in depth report on these results, so that's as far as we got.
We ended up sending him to a private preschool-8th grade school this school year (3rd grade) that isn't for gifted children but has a curriculum I really like and "teaches to the top". Our son says he isn't any happier there and although he is doing very well, he rushes his work and makes careless mistakes. My husband thinks it's a mistake to send him to private elementary school and we're having a hard time making ends meet because of it, even though we got a good bit of financial aid, so I'm not really getting supported in this decision. I really pushed for it because I imagine it's miserable to be unhappy like he was at public school, but as I said, he doesn't seem any happier here.
His interests are fleeting-he absorbs himself in video games but we try to limit those. He hasn't found any other hobbies he can really absorb himself in and because of our situation we can't really throw money at a lot of things. We don't really know how to handle someone who is young but mature beyond his years. He has friends but he's often upset after playdates with them because he didn't have as much fun as he hoped. He's had mental health issues too, and a small disagreement or something that doesn't quite go his way can be quite devastating to him.
I guess I'm just looking for people who have been through this. I'm sorry for the novel but I haven't really had anyone to talk to about this yet.