Wow, Polly, I could pick your brain all day. Thanks a ton for all of that info.
I love your suggestions. I do know that my DS was extremely nervous when we got to the doc's office the day of testing. So much so that he was clinging to me and didn't want to go back. A lady neuropsych tested him and while she was nice, she wasn't super warm to get him started. I walked back with them then walked out.
Admittedly I was concerned that they didn't know him at all and were testing him. He had to be tested to get into his Pre-K private school a few years back. He walked into a similar situation not knowing the testers. Half-way through the test they realized he was playing a trick on them by answering the correct answer to what had previously been asked. When they caught him he giggled then performed correctly. He is quite silly. He is also extremely bashful in certain atmospheres. He has really come into his own due to maturity the last year or so. So many of his quirks are harder to see as in you really have to look for them...but I digress.
Last thing the tester told me was that after lunch my son was spent. So basically whatever tests he did after lunch were a wash due to attention issues. What I didn't like was at the follow-up the lady who tested him was not in the meeting. It was the head doctor. I didn't say anything but I was confused. I had the initial interview with both docs but the results appointment with just the head male. Weird.
Your suggestions on timers, etc., are great. I'm trying to establish a homework routine right now. All in all my DS is really a good kid that wears me out! He historically has had a lot of ASD characteristics but those mirror so many other diagnosis. Getting the ADHD label gives me a point of reference to research now.
Regarding treatment: the suggestion was to do a 5 week computer course called Cogmed. Have you heard of it? Medication doesn't seem necessary to me right now either, but I definitely won't rule it out for the future. I'm thinking one day at a time right now. I'm just extremely scared of school becoming a huge obstacle, plus I think he would be excited by the projects in a gifted setting within his school. Our district does have a portfolio for qualifying by the way.
Sorry for novel!