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I just felt awkward jumping in without saying hello as I walk in the door. I have recently found my way here in an effort to find out more about the needs of GT children. This is not really anything I thought about when my girls were at home, but now that they are in school it seems to be coming up a lot and I thought I should become a more informed parent so I can better guide them through the school experience.

My girls are quite varied in their individual subtests, but all hover around 140-145 in their WISC-IV Full Scale IQ score.

DD11 is an introverted book worm with high scores in math & science. She's one of those all over well balanced kids who makes everything she touches seem easy. Her subtests are well balanced.
DD9 is dyslexic with APD and struggles a little in group social settings. She seems more self conscious than introverted at times. Despite the struggles with dyslexia and APD she is profoundly gifted in visual spatial areas of the subtests. She has some disharmony with her working memory and verbal scores not scoring as high as her other areas.
DD7 is very extroverted and social, her perceptual reasoning scores are especially high but she scored very well in everything other than processing speed, which was quite low comparatively. Drastic outlier, but the tester did note that she felt it was driven by perfectionism/anxiety to do well.

DD7 is actually the reason I started exploring this topic. We've never really had a problem getting their needs met wherever they were. DD7 has recently been struggling with some anxiety, and I wanted to seek out how to help her. She's extroverted and bright, no social anxiety that I can see, but so very hard on herself. She expects nothing short of perfection in her performance. She has a flair for theatre, but can not get over her anxiety to perform in auditions to her potential.

My husband is very much like DD11, and I am very much like DD9. Neither of us fully relate and understand the perfectionism to the extent that DD7 is experiencing it, therefore we lack the combined experience to help her without more information.

I look forward to reading here and learning from those of you who have acquired much more knowledge on the subject.

Welcome. Our DD7s could be soul sisters.

Welcome

Thanks for the welcome!

When I started looking up anxiety in children, I found that a lot of people were discussing gifted children with perfectionism and anxiety. It had not even occurred to me that they would be interdependent factors.

Her full score was brought down by processing speed, if that balances as she gets older her full scale should closer match her GAI which is substantially higher. Which would make her the highest IQ in the house, so it baffles my mind that she would feel anything but confidence.

Hopefully I can find the tools I need to help her struggle a little less with the demands she places on herself. This seems like a great resources so I'll do some searching through past posts and see what wisdom I can absorb

Hi, Welcome!

Perfectionism is one of the many issues gifted children/adults have. Have you checked out the Articles section on the Davidsongfted.org website? Also, there is information on the sengifted.org website too.