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One problem with college is that it completely shatters your sense of self, destroys your self-confidence, and obliterates all of your social support. You're speaking too generally. Many people don't feel that way about college. I didn't. My husband didn't. My father, sister, and cousins didn't. Lots of my friends didn't. Etc. I think most people rebuild their lives to some semblance of function rather than wandering around for five years feeling lost and confused. So, it's definitely a personal problem, although I really do want to stop having college nightmares. They're getting annoying.
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One of the more amusing things about my college experience was that my absolute worst grades, my C's, D's, and F's, started showing up when I was actually in my major in my junior/senior year when you are apparently supposed to be doing well rather than poorly.
It was just an example of complete social withdraw/depression/lack of coping skills.
You need a certain set of skills to function in a college environment. If you don't have them, things won't go well.
Now, I would be just fine there and it would probably be a positive experience.
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One problem with college is that it completely shatters your sense of self, destroys your self-confidence, and obliterates all of your social support. You're speaking too generally. Many people don't feel that way about college. I didn't. My husband didn't. My father, sister, and cousins didn't. Lots of my friends didn't. Etc. Indeed. Some of us didn't have those things before going to college. Nothing TO shatter, if you see my meaning. Wow. I think that perhaps I have finally discovered a personal narrative perspective which allows me to feel quite content about my deeply dysfunctional upbringing. Bonus!
Schrödinger's cat walks into a bar. And doesn't.
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One problem with college is that it completely shatters your sense of self, destroys your self-confidence, and obliterates all of your social support. You're speaking too generally. Many people don't feel that way about college. I didn't. My husband didn't. My father, sister, and cousins didn't. Lots of my friends didn't. Etc. Indeed. Some of us didn't have those things before going to college. Nothing TO shatter, if you see my meaning. Wow. I think that perhaps I have finally discovered a personal narrative perspective which allows me to feel quite content about my deeply dysfunctional upbringing. Bonus! It helps if you go from a system where you are essentially omnipotent (meaning that you get to watch guns getting pulled on unsuspecting kids playing with a ball at 2am and get to tell the teachers what to do) to a system where you are completely irrelevant.
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Oh, YAY!! Personal insight = accomplished.
See, it was very soothing to go from a place where life had no rules or meaning from day to day, unto one where the rules were clear and I apparently-- for the FIRST TIME-- had both the authority and ability to see to it that bad things didn't happen to me on a regular basis as a result of highly predictable cause-and-effect. (I think that this means that I pretty much WAS one of the kids in Jon's example.) College life was amazingly, exhiliratingly empowering.
Schrödinger's cat walks into a bar. And doesn't.
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:claps hands:
Oh, YAY!! Personal insight = accomplished.
See, it was very soothing to go from a place where life had no rules or meaning from day to day, unto one where the rules were clear and I apparently-- for the FIRST TIME-- had both the authority and ability to see to it that bad things didn't happen to me on a regular basis as a result of highly predictable cause-and-effect. (I think that this means that I pretty much WAS one of the kids in Jon's example.) College life was amazingly, exhiliratingly empowering. My personal insight is that it's hard to raise kids when you are emotionally an angry, angsty 17 year old who hates life. I still haven't figured that one out.
Last edited by JonLaw; 10/24/12 06:25 PM.
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