I have definitely been there and done that. DS8 has pretty much said it all to teachers and other adults over the past 4-5 years. We have even had the drawings of burning school buildings with the verbal threats. DS8 did end up doing therapy for over a year for his depression and anxiety. At one point the therapist told us that we should hide all the knives in the house (just in case) since DS8 was making some very basic suicide threats.
I definitely think therapy helped and would recommend it for these types of behaviors. Without help I imagine it could get worse. DS8 learned a lot of coping techniques and did a lot of guided role play with his therapist. He still gets upset but with age and maturity he does seem to handle it better then when he was a preschooler. At 8 years old the frustrations (such as the twisted seat belt) still exist but his outbursts and reactions are not as severe.
