It's nice to know that we are not alone.
@Grinity, we have have been working with both girls on "tone of voice" errors. DD9 has been quite challenging on this issue lately. I think that she is experiencing a lot of frustration right now at school where she tends to keep everything inside. She's letting it all out at home. Thanks for the the suggestions re phrasing. I think that she is tired of my comments about my inability to read her mind.