Also remember that forcing is acceptable if needed. Bribing is acceptable. Arm twisting is acceptable. And perhaps letting her fully 'enjoy' being with teachers who don't like her is the best 'natural consequence' of all.
Here's my newest version of 'I told you so.'
Kid: Mom - the teacher's don't like me.
Me: I'll bet you know what I'm going to say next, right?
Kid: That if I had chosen the gifted class then the teachers would like me but it was my choice. And next time I'll make a better choice. Right?
Me: You are so perceptive - good job!
It sounds snotty and sarcastic when I write it down, but I've been able to do it sincerely in a variety of circumstances lately and been loving it!
Smiles,
Grinity
