Thanks everyone for the responses. I am definitely going to be checking out those recommended links and book mentioned.
momma2many- that is interesting about seeing a pediatric eye doctor- what made you do that route- are there other issues and concerns ya'll had. When DS was tested 2 years ago we did a private child psychologist (we are lucky that our insurance covered it) but I would have never thought about going the route of an eye specialist. Going to look into that- at his last eye appointment his vision was perfect- but the doctor was concerned about his focusing speed- he wears reading glasses for an hour or two a day at home now - not for seeing but to give his eyes a workout.
Our biggest issue is that now that he is at grade level- no one is really concerned about anything and we can not stand the school psych so we do not want to go through them until necessary. They seem to think we are crazy for being concerned since he is doing just fine now (and maybe we are crazy :-) ) but I have a gut feeling that there is still something going on with him that needs to be addressed.
