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annaliisa - welcome.

We have worked on perfectionism. Modeling failure with appropriate behavior has helped. Even Mommy makes mistakes.

I let my kids pour milk/juice from a picture in a size they can handle. This is good for self esteem. Encourage them to give themselves a pat on the back when they do a good job, especially trying something new. It's good that they are pleasing themselves more than Mom. When they make a mistake, we say that's ok you are learning. If they spill the milk, that's ok, you can fix it, and let them help clean it up. Fixing there mistakes is very helpful to children.

My husband has a very hard time not getting upset about the spilled milk so I put out poured milk at diner.

Hope this helps.