Kristen, We are in a similar situation with our son (HG with an ASD.) He is now 7, and up til this past year we had addressed only his ASD with ABA, etc! We found a great school for next year that will (so they say) focus on his gifts while accommodating the ASD instead of vice versa. You are lucky to start focusing on her gifts at age 4.5...it took us just a little longer to realize that we needed to do that. (It was actually DS himself who dragged us into realization!) Happy to see you, Nan