Hi Tall boys
I don't know about the US but I found out that here in NZ the schools would much prefer a child is diagnosed on the Autistic Spectrum because they get extra funding for that but nothing if a child is gifted. If they see behaviour issues they like to be able to support the teacher with a teacher aide which they can get if they have an autistic/asperger's etc child in the class.
And his behaviour may be no more than my DS6 who; when bored acts out, when being overly perfectionist has major melt-downs and is emotionally very sensitive. We also warned the school right at the beginning of the year to put him with a strong teacher who will see through his manipulating and not put up with his arguing - seems to have worked so far, although we are having a bad week, as I've said somewhere else he may be taking a developmental leap or just in need of end of term break.
Good luck - hope you find the right help, we did and it made all the difference.
