I found this book that looked interesting. I haven't read it myself yet but maybe someone here has some feedback. I'm planning to read it and watching this thread with interest for other suggestions.

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Perfectionism and Gifted Children
Rosemary Callard-Szulgit

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"Callard-Szulgit does an excellent job of differentiating between perfectionism and aspiring to excellence." � CHOICE

DESCRIPTION
The perceived natural character of gifted children is to be well behaved, hard working, and studious. Why, then, do so many gifted children have trouble in school? Rosemary Callard-Szulgit, herself a recovering perfectionist, explains how perfectionism can immobilize some children and cause social adjustment problems for others, and can also be a major contributing factor as to why school assignments and personal responsibilities are not being completed by so many of today's gifted children. During her 35-year career, Callard-Szulgit has found perfectionism to be the #1 social-emotional trait of gifted children. Perfectionism and Gifted Children provides insight into perfectionism, discussing why so many gifted children are perfectionists while providing common sense solutions to this problem.

This book will be helpful to families and educators of gifted students, as well as the gifted children themselves. The question and answer section may ease some anxieties that stem from the problem of perfectionism. Appendixes list associations and advocacy groups, Internet resources, and journals and magazines that address the special needs of the gifted and talented.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR perfectionism and gifted children
Rosemary Callard-Szulgit, EdD is currently associated with the State University of New York, College at Brockport, where her courses on Teaching the Gifted K-12, Teaching Writing K-12, and Teaching Reading K-12, have become highly respected. Dr. Callard-Szulgit has a staff development consulting business, Partners for Excellence, in Rochester, NY and Phoenix, AZ. She is the former Facilitator for Gifted and Talented, K-8, in the Webster Central School District, a suburb of Rochester, NY. She continues to have articles published dealing with the education of gifted children.