We used reasoning, but also used the "if...Then" principle.
Ex: If you put the book away, then you can help me cook.
We tried to use this in away that taught sequencing of events, responsibity, and useful skills.
It was not bribery. "If you put the book away, I will give you candy."
My dds liked to have feelings acknowleged ad even to know that you have feelings too. I remember one day, DD7, then 2 wanted to go outside to play and it was really rainy and cold. After explaining to her the "why", we both laid on the floor and hid our faces until she said, "I will get a book, Mommy!" It was a great day where we were able to come up with lots of alternative things to do!
